Being a mom is not my mother's best quality!
And although she may not like saying it aloud,
I want to fight for her to retain her right to not to like her day-job.
How many of us like our day-jobs anyway?
We often do them because we really need what it brings;
The capital: financial, social, relational.
Mothers in this deeply misogynist world,
(whose wombs are impregnated with patriarchal expectations
even before a sperm reach that darkness)
Do they even have a place to sit, do a bottoms up on a glass of beer, and say,
"I hate my day-job! I hate being a mother!!"
And on that note, hold my glass mate!!
I want a world like that.
I wish it was like becoming the President of USA
Once you become one,
You will be called one all your life and you don't even have to do much for that.
Being a mother is like a test every day
And it is better that you agree to fail because
It is so much easier to fail
Than getting anything closer to the pass marks.
"Your infant does not weigh much?" Fail!
"The infant weighs too much?" Fail!
"The toddler does not talk?" Fail!
"The toddler talks too much?" Fail!
You have a teenager?!
You better don't get me started!
In a society where you are, what you have,
A son's mother passes in flying colours though
With a son settled abroad and earning in six figures.
A daughter's mother does not pass even then....
"Did she bring the milk coming back home at midnight from the CEO meeting?"
Indra Nooyi, the CEO asks.
Mothers fail!
My mother is a great aunt, friend, sister, and a great self-taught banker
My mother is a fabulous cook with no patience to teach anyone...
But being a mother, is not my mother's best quality.
And I want a world for my mother on this mother's day,
In which she can say this without being shamed!
The adult me wants to humanise my mother
The adult me wants to humanise all mothers,
Including myself.
My younger self gets even more angry with me though...
She does not like it. But she is only a child..
I know my mother would not like it either.
And you wouldn't too!
